Lock & Key: Playing with Penis Chastity
By Rebecca Weinberg
For those of you with penises, imagine locking yours up in a thick metal cage. The device won’t allow you to get an erection or masturbate to orgasm. You can’t even use the bathroom without sitting down. Your only hope of escape is pleasing the person who holds the key enough to unlock your precious equipment. Sound horrifying? To some it may, but to others the prospect of this scenario fills them with excitement. Why? This kind of chastity play is a form of orgasm control. It’s a sex game that uses anticipation, denial, and specialized equipment to intensify desire. In other words, chastity is a form of mental foreplay. People that practice it swear by its erotically intoxicating effects.
It’s important for you to understand the real motivators for chastity play so you can convey that to your customers. You can’t effectively sell equipment that you don’t fully understand yourself. Additionally, you might pique the interest of customers that may never have considered the positive aspects of this practice.
How does a chastity device work?
Chastity devices are sometimes referred to as cock cages. They can be made from silicone, plastic, or metal, with metal being the most popular. Most devices have open spaces for urination, ventilation, and cleaning. All properly fitting chastity devices inhibit erections – a small padlock or built-in locking mechanism keeps the device closed; cock cages like these are wearable from a few hours during play session to months at a time. In partnered situations, the dominant partner, sometimes called the keyholder, keeps the key until they see fit.
What’s the appeal?
Although it seems counterintuitive, withholding climax can make the orgasms that eventually happen feel even more mind blowing. For example, the Pen Deluxe Stainless Steel Locking Chastity Cage from Master Series is perfectly suited for tease and denial games. It has ample open space where the penis is exposed, which makes it easy to touch, lick, rub against, or coax it with a small
vibrator. While this type of sexual stimulation feels wonderful at first, once the penis starts to swell with excitement, it may become painful. Teasing repeatedly this way over an extended period can really rev up the libido, paving the way for a toe-curling postponed orgasm. For some, stimulating the prostate while wearing a chastity device can be the ultimate in bittersweet sensual experiences. Others may find they can climax from this type of stimulation without getting an erection.
Chastity play with a heavy emphasis on tease and denial is perfect for sadomasochists. It can also foster feelings of devotion and commitment for those in dominant/submissive relationships. Some premature ejaculators also benefit from this type of play because it can help them hold off orgasm and increase their staying power.
What about advanced chastity play?
Those serious about complete denial may opt for a device that covers the genitals more completely. The Exile Deluxe Locking Stainless Steel Confinement Cage from Master Series encases the penis in solid metal and has only a few open holes for urination. Similarly, the Rikers 24-7 Stainless Steel Locking Chastity Cage from Master Series is a solid tube of metal with only a small slit for utilitarian purposes. This device is also fabulous for longer-term chastity. It was designed to minimize bulkiness, making it difficult to detect under clothing.
Anticipation is a key component to chastity play. It’s like extreme, extended foreplay. To emphasize this delicious aspect, the Key Holder Time Lock
from Master Series is a wonderful accessory. With this lock, no amount of begging or pleading can persuade one’s dominant to free them early. This USB-rechargeable device ranges from a lock time of 1 minute to 99 hours (4 full days!).
Once this lock is programmed, there is no possibility of early escape. Watching the digital readout count down the seconds adds to the excitement. Additionally, this lock can be used on anything: restraints, gags, toy boxes, and more. It’s also the perfect component for those that practice self-bondage.
Chastity play is largely misunderstood by the general public. Many assume it’s all about the disappointment of denial and being subject to harsh punishment. What’s often not talked about are the positives that accompany those elements. Excitement, anticipation, and physical edging are key factors that make chastity so enjoyable and can kick the libido into overdrive, making for explosive orgasms when play concludes.
Understanding the true motivations for engaging in chastity is key to selling this type of equipment. Talk with customers about the erotic nature of chastity and make sure you present it in an adventurous light. Don’t let misconceptions turn into missed sales opportunities.